The Place Where We Live

| 4/15/2014 8:45:00 AM

Tags: Querencia, Nebraska Prairie, Willa Cather, Bloggers Block, Mary Conley,

Mary ConleyDear friends,

I'm supposed to be writing about rebuilding the barn, but I guess I have blogger's block! Instead, I want to tell you about a new word I learned while studying Spanish recently, as it has become stuck in my mind. It is querencia, and it means the wanting place, a safe place, or where one feels at home. A place from which one’s strength is drawn. I find it curious that I have two of those places, although they are as different as night and day.

I've noticed people tend to favor where they've grown up. They've become accustomed to its unique and familiar ways. It is where they feel comfortable. Someone is always asking us if we'll ever move to our farm, and recently I heard myself saying that I doubt it, but it would be my preference. I'm wondering if I love the farm so much because I began my life's journey on one. Maybe that is why on one of my first nights on the farm, I mumbled, “I’m happy” as I was falling asleep.

Soon after we married, we moved to Omaha so Larry could attend a trade school. City life was very foreign to us compared to the farm and a small Iowa town of about 400, but we ended up adjusting to suburbia and raising our family here. I recently asked Larry, "Now, why was it that we stayed in Omaha instead of going back home?" Jobs, we decided. Then, five years ago when circumstances allowed, we bought our little farm. It was just supposed to be an interesting land investment, but quite unexpectedly, querencia set in.


A typical Nebraska landscape three miles from our farm.

4/21/2014 5:13:52 AM

Thanks for sharing Dave, and I agree with you. I like the four seasons. I would miss each one. I think Nebraska a great place to live.

4/20/2014 2:41:04 PM

Mary, where is home? That is the question. I would say where ever the family is but then that would be Las Vegas. Never going to be my home. It's a great place to visit but not to live. I moved away from Nebraska once to live in St. Louis for seven years. Upon moving back to Nebraska, I vowed never to leave again and I intend on keeping the vow. I discovered that I missed the seasons. Here the seasons are very definite and last three months give or take depending on the year. I really missed the Spring and Fall that were short or non existent in St. Louis. I like all the seasons. Even the dreaded Winter with the cold, storms, shoveling snow, and winter driving can be enjoyed with the right attitude. It makes the Spring even more enjoyable. So I guess my answer would not be a specific place other than Eastern Nebraska. ***** Have a great place where you live day.

4/18/2014 11:46:07 PM

Thanks for commenting ladies!

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